For the engaged couple that has started planning their wedding, one of the first things they should think about is the cost. The average wedding today usually runs $20,000-$40,000, depending on how extravagant and detailed the couple wants their day to be. To some couples, this amount may not even begin to cover the ideas they have for their big day and if your one of those couples, please know I envy you. To those of you stressing over the cost, know that it is possible to stay way under $20,000, but the couple must to be willing to compromise. One of the main questions that I have seen couples struggle with is the question of who’s family pays for what. The problem with this question is that there is no right or wrong answer. In this day and age, couples can pay for the whole wedding by themselves, divide it between the bride’s parents and the groom’s parents, or split it however they want with family and friends that have offered to contribute to their special day. I would strongly advise that you do not put off discussing this with your parents or his because it will only cause more problems and stress for you later on. Have a meeting with both families and find out how much they are willing to spend and try to divide it as equally as possible so that one family does not look better than the other. Also, try not to imply that they have to pay for one certain item on your list. If they really want to cover the entertainment and photographer, but not the food at the reception, work with them. Be happy that they are willing to pay at all because some couples are not as fortunate. I would also recommend that if you and your groom want extras that are not necessary for the wedding, think about covering those costs yourselves. Now, if you are one of those brides that like to have a more exact answer of who pays for what, I have included a link at the bottom that I found on Pinterest and it will make you very happy. This is a more traditional list of whose responsibility it is to pay for things on the big day. Just keep in mind that there is no right or wrong when it comes to who pays for the wedding. My best advice to you is to set a budget from the beginning, factoring in how much you are able to spend and how much the two families can contribute. This will help you see where you need to cut back or where you can afford to spend a little extra. Best of luck to you and spend wisely!